And weirdly, right on cue, as I'm sitting in silence thinking all this through and typing this...I hear the keys going in the door and someone trying to get in.

What the actual heck is going on? Why does he want in here?

Me: 48, XH: 42
T: 18 years, M: 15 years

EA/PA 1: 6/2012
EA/PA 2: from autumn 2012-present

BD: 5/2013
ILYBNILWY BD & left: 10/2015

OW conceived: 8/2016
Born: 4/2017

H filed: 7/2017
D final: 28/12/2017