14 days of sheer hell, part 7

[DDJ]

Hi all - yes i'm back, not sure for how long though... Wanted to wait a bit longer but thought that the time is right now to give some newbies and vet's some hope and faith.

I do plan on summarising this whole DB thing in few threads that could rival Sandi's stuff, but from an opposing view of "drop the M, save yourself". Will do once the D is done.

So does DB work - YES IT DOES. Can it save a marriage - depends if you want to.

I have completed all requirements for filing of the D. I could get the final papers within the next few days. Then I go to our divorce court and get put on the court roll. Then I appear before the magistrate and legally divorce. This could be done within 2 to 4 weeks. South Africans know the need to "let go" of the past - LOL.

In a nutshell, my STBXWW has no respect for me. If she has no respect, then she does not care about me. If she does not care about me, then she does not love me. No-one cheats on someone that they respect, care about or love. I think that these 3 basic things are a requirement for a happy marriage - and i'm not even going to go into my side of the R.

I can choose to fight for something that isn't mine anymore, or i can live my life to the fullest and find someone that knows what real love is and is willing to share it with me.