I did do work to get there, and some of it happened naturally, with passing time. Something evolved in me where holding onto "proving" what happened to my daughter and I was so wrong made me depressed. Made me feel like I was missing out on the good or real love because I needed the world and everyone around me know divorce is wrong and devastating and ruins lives. In the end, I was only hurting me and my daughter.
Because what sunny said. Did I want my daughter to see me give up on love and relationships because her father chose to go outside of the marriage? Did I want her seeing me give up on love for the rest of my life because her dad messed up?
You are evolving, with time, it's quite apparent. But honestly, the one thing that holds you back is your fear ( yes, it's a fear) of becoming one of the society who condones divorce because if you decide to have another relationship and not be crippled by it.
i don't think you are missing anything. I think there are just things you need to let go of that are weighing you down that you might not even realize. People aren't simply de aging your rigid viewpoints. They can just see them weighing you down so hard.
