Caught up on your sitch and glad you are where you are at! (wish I was as i am heading for Divorce)
You can't control the things you are worried about and I would only guess that the second guessing and anxiety from thinking about these things are going to slow down your progress. I know its easy to say from my shoes but if you can focus on the positive, enjoy that you are getting along, better sex life and be confident I am guessing it will make you much more attractive to H.
Different scenario but my therapist has helped me to stop worrying about my STBX and what she does with my D7 or lack thereof....she wasn't spending the time and giving her the attention needed which I was thinking about day and night. I still think about other negative things about how I am going to handle things with my daughter but working on it. Her suggestion was be positive, focus on the good things you can control, and dont focus on the uncontrollable.
Good luck on reconnecting!
_________________________ Me-48 Spouse-WAW 52 Married for 10 years D7 ILYBNILWY 7/15 Suspect EA/PA 12/15 No confirmation/denial She files 1/2016 Working towards the Big D ...still in progress....
