You are not going to believe this, Zeus, but I was just like you, in the first 2 or so years. I felt as if My life wasn't permanently crippled by the divorce, then that mean divorce and affairs are acceptable and not the most awful thing in the world! So my life simply had to be crippled else it would minimize the severity of what they did.
But boy was that exhausting! And my life wasn't crippled! I have scars, I have suffered some, but I was not going to give divorce the power to cripple my life. Nor was I going to do it because I was afraid if I came out okay, or perhaps even better, it would minimize the impact of divorce.
I decided I didn't want to end up like wonka's stepmom . Nor did I want to end up like my mom, dead. My mother was mentally ill woman. But when my dad left, she went off the deep end and killed herself a few years later. It did cripple her because she was not equipped to handle it.
