3 Months of misery

[Zues126]

To be clear...did you tell her you had seen a lawyer and would be serving her with divorce paperwork?

I'm not sure why you would restate repeatedly you didn't want this. I'm not suggesting you use this as a trick to get her to wake up, but if there was any chance this would get a reaction you kind of diminish the impact when you create the impression that you'd cancel the D in a heartbeat if she wanted you. BUT- I do understand wanting it on the record one time that you don't want a divorce but will do what you need to do. If you felt you had to do this then fine, and now it is done so it's done.

But I would recommend no more heartfelt letters, no more R talks, no more assurances or talk of wanting to be M, no more, no more, no more. She knows you don't want D, she just doesn't care. Anymore than she cared that you didn't want her to cheat on you for 8 years.

It's time to build a new life and leave this behind.