Rotzilla I wanted to first say thanks for stopping by my thread and I need all the help and insights I can get right now. I'm dealing with one confusing W!
Imagine my surprise to come to your thread and see this vibrant discussion going on! Growing more vibrant by each post.
I agree with everyone about ML, continue to do it if it is even just sex to you or feels that way. He may be thinking differently, it may mean more to him.
As for looking into the eyes, that is very intense, maybe he isn't ready for it yet? It is still intimidating for me. Hard for me to really relax. Has he always done this with you?
As for the cuddling, stroking, fondling, caressing type stuff has he always done this with you? Both of these questions apply not only has he done this before in your M but always done them each time ML?
I'll say from this man's perspective that my W didn't know how much I love her. She had the same concerns about sex without ever telling me about them in a straightforward manner. She is poor at communication for fear of getting hurt. Not only until now do I realize what she was saying to me then.
The mere act of ML or sex is a loving gesture to me. Giving of oneself to another. Especially given the context of the act, meaning your histories together. Everytime I felt we were ML, she might have needed more attention prior and after. I think my W is beautiful, but I really think from behind she is a work or art. From that I mean her neck, shoulders, back, waist, hips everything. Problem with this is she felt I didn't want to look at her, maybe she felt this was just sex to me. I guess my point is what he is feeling may not be what you think he is feeling.
One thing before I forget, is ML his primary LL? I always used to think it was mine but I think it is WOA now. ML is still very important to me, but not everything.
