History of issues including marriage counseling from her therapist (BAD mistake but ONLY figured out the ethical conflict recently). Divorce proceedings started 6/1/16. WAW and I definitely do not want this.
Question, today is our anniversary SHOULD I acknowledge it and/or 180 and do nothing??
Thanks for the insight!!!
W:51 M:50 T:19 yrs M: 17 yrs S15 S11 BD: April 2016 ("too much tension") Moved out: early June 2016 Filed for D: early June 2016
You may be on moderation now, post in small frequent replies and stay on this thread until you reach 100 posts (for your thread, you can also post on other peoples threads to give support). Especially on this Newcomers forum, where the posting activity is very active, and your posts can quickly fall to the bottom of the page or even several pages down. Keep journaling and asking questions - people will come! Most important - POST!
Get out and Get a Life (GAL). DETACH.
Believe none of what he or she says and half of what he/she does.
Have NO EXPECTATIONS.
Take care of yourself, breathe, eat, sleep, exercise.
Take the parts of this advice that you need and don't worry if I have repeated something that you have already done.
Here are a few links to threads that will help you immensely:
My mistake! I should have said something like "she is a WAW and I don't want the divorce", sorry.
Honestly, even after the filing I talked to her therapist and she indicated something along the lines of "you didn't get to this point in a short time and you will not be able to get out of it in a short time"
Just trying to be respectful for our anniversary. No present, no card....maybe acknowledgement...or nothing???
W:51 M:50 T:19 yrs M: 17 yrs S15 S11 BD: April 2016 ("too much tension") Moved out: early June 2016 Filed for D: early June 2016
Just keep POSTING and one other bit of advice from Wonka that I totally agree with.
Originally Posted By: Wonka
Get DR/DB book. Keep this to yourself. DO NOT share this book or this site at all with your spouse. It is your playbook and not to be shared with the "opposing" team.
It is important to clear the search/browsing history from your computer on a daily basis to prevent the possibility for your WAS to stumble on the DB site and discover your posts here on DB. Erasing the search history will protect your posts and you as well.
We have seen too many Marriages blow up in pieces after the WAS discovers the DB site or DR book. Why is that? It is because the WAS thinks, erroneously I might add, that you are "manipulating" them back into the M.
Keep the DR book and DB site very close to your vest.
M 55 W 52 MR 32 T 34+ D29 BD May 8, 2016 - She moved out ILYBNILWY May 15 (Through email) No EA/PA August 23 - DB used against me in every way Divorce July 18, 2017 - Life is getting better every day
