I would argue that following DB advice is the hardest path you can take, so you should already feel good about what you've done in terms of suppressing your pursuit urges -- that's very, very difficult and takes a lot of discipline. Making that commitment comes from a place of love.
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yes, it does come from love. however it also comes from fear. from this site i have obtained a very deep fear that if I do things such as pursuit, that I will destroy any chances I have. it is a very real fear that I have learned here.
It's to the point where my therapist is encouraging me to say something to her. he says it's not all black and white. I can say a simple short thing like, "this has been really difficult for me" or "I still miss you." and I shouldn't feel like I'm going to kill my chances. But I tell you I have this fear, and that is why I have kept my mouth shut and a smile on my face.
So my lack of pursuit is based on love and fear, if that means anything.
