Gabs, I've been reading this posts and a lot, if not most, of your concerns resonate with me; especially what I quoted. I'm about a year behind you and in the initial stages of DB. My biggest concern is I think my W left me because I didn't express my love to her at all and going dark just reaffirms her decision to leave me.
Well hello there RDS. Glad to find someone who can relate.
So there has been an update.... a few days ago an email was going around with my wife and family members, concerning the fact that my father died and there is some aftermath regarding his widowed wife.... and my wife commented that "it is very difficult to lose someone you have spent so much time with in your life"
I could not resist answering. I wrote a simple email back to my wife saying "yes that is true."
She wrote back to me reminding me of the reasons that I "blew it." and what I did wrong. I just looked through them all and virtually all of them are as you say, I did not love her. I did not show her I loved her. I did not appreciate her.
THIS is why I feel a need to tell her how I feel. A year has gone by. I need to set the record straight and say yes I blew it but the fact remains that over the last year I have realized how much I do love and appreciate her. I just have to know that in her mind she knows how I really feel.
