Hi Gabs. Read you recent post and my pennies worth is a year is a very short time frame but you must live your life as you want
Can I ask why you decided to post on here again because you don't belove DB has worked for you so why tell the forum what your going to do. It's a serious question because if you had already written the letter and W had changed her mind I think a lot of us would appreciate that iknowledge but as it is you knew the response you would get
Yes you can ask anything. first to clarify, I'm not syaing "DB hasn't worked" for me. as I have said, there are many things I have learned here. the basic ideas of not pursing, working on myself, giving her space, etc. have helped me a lot. I would have written 10 letters by now if I had not come to DB.
Originally Posted By: rd500
As for your W saying you will move on with a new lady , , I'm like yourself , I have made no overtures to my WW about coming home and in fact shut down any efforts on her part to bring up R talk yet she has made it quite clear she does not wish me to move on with someone else. I'm almost two years into this now. If my WW had wanted back then she would have to make it abundantly clear and I wouldn't feel there would be much of a chance of a new R unless she did regardless of my actions
I'm confused, you want your wife back? She has indicated that she doesn't want you to move on with someone else? why would she indicate that, unless she wants to be with you? I understand that you want her to make it abundantly clear what she wants. This is just my two cents. If I were you, ultimately wanting to reconcile, and she was telling me not to be with another person, I would take that as an invitation. I wouldn't sit back and wait for her to make things abundantly clear. I would ask her why she doesn't want you to be with someone else. A conversation along these lines might open the door to what you have been waiting for. Just my two cents.
Originally Posted By: rd500
I'm 21 years M and 27 years in together
you are one of the few people here that come close to the longevity of my situation. we are 30 years together.
Originally Posted By: rd500
As for you being able to express yourself , that's great , a lot of people on here would love that ability I personally can't other than the simple I love you
yes well i feel like this is one of the cards in my hand and I haven't played it yet. Thanks to DB, and I mean that. I think if I was writing deep thoughtful letters to her earlier on, that would not have been good. I think now that a year has passed, it will have more of an impact when I do this. And the fact that a yaer has passed and I am still loving her means a little more than a month after she left. anyway we'll see. thanks.
