Chapter 2, She moved out - I win! I think

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Sandi2:

Thanks for the insightful post yet again. Yes, I can see how the score keeping could look bad. I was trying to be humorous and give a play by play.

I'll start a new thread - if I can't change the name.

I really do feel that my WW/WAW is losing. She is so full of hurt, blame and resentment she is willing to give up everything to be with the community she loves and thinks is going to be there for her forever. The only thing that is there forever is your family (IMHO). Jobs, friends, hobbies, celebrity, success, etc all come and go.

She is really feeling the loss. She is living in one room in a friend's house. Who, BTW wants her out at the end of the month.

Her kids don't want her to visit this house and they don't love her visiting her there.

She is ticked that the house is running fine without her. S15 told me he does not miss her. They are equally harsh to me too. S15 told me it is too late for my marriage.

She told me this morning that she has given them everything except for past last year and now they don't want anything to do with her. Now she is going to be stuck living in a crappy basement and paying into a house she is not welcome in.

Is this not the kind of loss that you and your team think is the only thing a WW/WAW responds too.

But, your point is well taken. If I'm gloating in my posts - she is probably picking up on that too. I do think, I'm not doing so bad, I'm setting a course to be without her and it feels as bad as it once did. So detachment is coming slowly.

BTW, I want her back in the house - just not in an in house sep. I really put my foot down and said, either come home on a path to reconciliation or find a better place to live.

I want to go to MC but for reconciliation - I'll find out on Friday morning why she is going.

So here are my next steps I think.

We need to set new ground rules for visitation etc. She just can't come and go as she please from my home.

Keep on with my GAL.

Get back on my 180/LRT course.