Hiya Rott, Well here are my thoughts. I'm not sure it is a male vs. female thing. If you put yourself in his position, I bet you would come up with the correct answer. If you were ML to him but forcing your eyes shut and absolutely no contact, only wrist holding, etc, would it make YOU feel emotionally close to him? Probably not.
However, the bright side to all this is the mere fact that he IS trying so hard to escape his true feelings about you by resisting anything that makes him feel something for you--and it appears that there are a lot of things that make him feel something for you.
So my vote is to by all means continue with the lovemaking. In my opinion (whatever that's worth, lol) there is no faster way to re-establish intimacy between two people. It is such an inherently intimate act. He is struggling with this fact and trying to keep it un-emotional. It sounds like he is failing at this endeavor, though, so keep up your good work!
