The Unpleasantness

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Quick update. Picked up daughter to take her to school. I asked W to bring down my guitar so I could mess around on it. She came down with my S and D. Face to face interaction - respectful, poised, cordial. This is when she tells me my MIL will be in town and I may see her on Friday’s drop off of kids.

Later in the day - text msgs from wife informing of typo in my passport that was sent to the house. Arranged to meet tomorrow to pick up paperwork so I could go to the passport office and take care of it. Also arranged pickup of kids tomorrow. Communication was smooth.

I don’t know, but I feel good about the way I’ve been conducting myself. I feel like I’m projecting confidence and poise around her. Have the kids for the next two nights, going to take them to play with my cousin’s kids tonight, then another birthday dinner tomorrow for one of their friends. Been meditating, attending 12 step meetings, been focusing on work a lot the past week. Stayed up late to get a project done for a meeting today, feel like work situation is stabilizing and generally good.

I’m seeing my personal therapist who I’ve been seeing for the past 12 years, I’m seeing a DB coach every week or two. Considering seeing a ‘life coach’ at some point or a ‘career coach’. I want to really double down at work and really define what I need to do to get to where I really want to be in terms of my career. In general my career is going very well. I’ve been really killing it you might say, the past couple years and am pretty much on track for a promotion. I want to really go heads down and go for the promotion this year, and to also look into other things I could do to improve my finances (which are generally pretty good right now) - such as what I can do to develop my side mobile app business, and other things I can do investment wise.

Your ex has given you a gift - the gift of TIME. I can use it to sit around and mope. Or I can take this gift of time and personal freedom to focus on things I want to improve.