Working on me and letting it play out

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Well, that sounds EXACTLY like my old lady. She can only think about 2 things: S and work. I don't know if you're familiar, but my S requires speech therapy and to a lesser extent occupational therapy. She was frustrated that I didn't understand anything, because I was working while she was talking to therapists and she wouldn't/couldn't communicate effectively to me. "What did they say?" "I don't know, you'd have to call. They just say he needs XYZ." Ended up, she hated the occupational therapist (the person and the method) and I threw away a couple thousand dollars on it (she hasn't contributed a dime to therapy costs, we have always had separate accounts). He has, however, done amazingly well in speech and his therapist is excited about his progress.

Long story short, we could never get on the same page. I wanted to know what was discussed, why, what it would accomplish, costs. She didn't care about that, she was just scared and wanted me to go along with everything. That's how it started really.....

He's going to be in a new school in August, and for the first time Mommy won't be a quick walk down the stairs away. She'll feel a huge weight off her shoulders initially, but as time goes on she'll miss him terribly.

Anyway, I've hijacked your thread! I just know exactly what you're talking about. If you communicate effectively, and work as hard as you can to help your S, you'll grow closer. At least that's what I think. That's actually the thing that gives me the most hope, our S bringing us back together. She loves him dearly, but is so stressed out and tired she can't take care of him like she used to. It's only been a month so I can't expect her to run to me, but she used to say I didn't do anything. She's slowly figuring out that just being there is a HUGE job. Not only that, but I'm 10 times the day I am today that I was 18mos ago.

I do know how you feel about the plan B thing as well. But, if you try to force the M stuff over her class and especially S, it won't go well. Don't get frustrated (easy for me to say right!) just keep plugging away!