Working on me and letting it play out

[cbtdad]

So W and I are sitting on back deck just discussing things. We were mainly talking about our 6 year old son and how much he has been acting out lately.
We took him for a reading test last week and they suggested that he may have ADD. So we have an appointment now for that at the end of July. Anyways in all of this discussion she brought up how stressful everything is right now. I asked what she meant. She said the only things she cares about over the next year are finishing paramedic school and our S. She said that our neighbor asked what about our marriage and she said she told her that she is so stressed about school and our son that she can only focus on that right now.
I definitely felt myself getting upset but I just continued to listen as she said that she told neighbor that I understood. And that I realize that's how she is and that she can't have too much on her plate at once.
She went on to start talking about how she is so stressed about paramedic school because she has never wanted anything this bad. That that is all she wants.
It was so hard to just see there and listen and validate her feelings. I want her to want this marriage. I want her to put the same effort into me as she is school.
She is just sitting in front of me listening to music now and drinking wine.
We have MC session tomorrow so I guess I will wait to till then
On a positive note she did say she would have "cracked" by now if i wasn't being so helpful right now
But that's what I don't like at the same time. Makes me feel like I'm just being used or that I'm plan B