My third post - please be nice

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collin: Sounds like you are doing a good job at resisting your emotions. We know that the"I wuv you" is problematic. Best to try and skip it or come up with a neutral placeholder. For years I used terms of endearment for my W e.g. Honey, babe, sweetheart, etc. Once the in house sep really took hold I had to do something else. Saying her name sounded to formal and awkward. I implemented Cio Bella on goodbyes, and partner, pally, etc for general convo. I felt it was a happy medium. Not emotional, but familiar. So maybe something like that could work? Think of it as a secret code.

Careful on the physical stuff. During the in house Sep occasionally we would kiss, etc (yes physical touch is my love language). From time to time and as recently as Sunday night she was telling me I forced myself on her. She completely "forgets" her flirting with me and other ways of letting her latent feelings slip out. So be careful. It's so tempting and easy to slip into old habits - but that is what DB and DR is about smashing the old habits.

You are doing great.