Okay, point taken you two. Thanks again. I will continue to learn to love myself and my S13 the best I know how. Just saw him for lunch and when he left he said "see you around". He is so uncertain right now, as am I but my adult brain is probably a little better equipped than his. This will be devastaing to all three of us, my STBXW may take a bit longer to recognize the effects of this tragedy. I have grown up in a household where this type of thing just rarely happens. Out of 8 siblings 2 have been divorced, one just recently. My folks have been married for 60 years and continue to love each other. Her Dad has been married 3 times and her mother twice. This is the normal for her, if I would have known when I was 19 that this is a warning sign (among others like addiction and abuse) I would have picked differently. I hope that someday I will be able to constructively teach my son how to pick a wife (or how not to rather). I understand that ultimately it will be his decision. The thing is we waited 7 years of marriage to have a kiddo, really tried to get to know each other and get the college kids out of our system before really settling down. I don't regret having my son but I don't want this for him, but I really don't have a choice now, she has made it for us all. Hurting today, the day before I tell my wife I am proceeding with the D.
M 21 years XW 43yo, me 41 yo S13 BD March 2016 - she asked me to patient... End of June - I started the D process. D final 2/23/17 "He who forgets will be destined to remember" Eddie Vedder
