What are the vets views on seeing/texting other women at this time to help me detach? I have been just as a confidence booster to help me realize that there is life after D and that I can find someone eventually.
I can totally stop it but I have been lonely for a long time and really enjoy some normal interaction to help distract and detach.
My counselor told be to tell her I want a D on Wednesday when I go to lunch. And also told me based on what I have disclosed to him that there is very little likelihood that her fog will lift. He did say that maybe some day after all of the papers are signed and things calm down that I should try to talk to her about what really went wrong. Is that a good idea, I know it is like trying to look into a crystal ball.
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The short answer is don't do it! If you are truly detaching and focusing on yourself, why would you want to muddy the waters by getting involved with someone else...even casually?
Listen to to Zues, Jim and LiM and take their advice. It might stroke your ego and feel good in the short term, but it will not help your situation at all. Be the good role model for your son.
Cristy
P.S. Zues- your heroin analogy had me laughing out loud here at the office
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