and be reminded that my life is permanently crippled.
It's not. You are still relatively fresh from your D, in time these feelings will fade for you. When you have your new woman it will seem silly to you.
Me-45, W-37, T-10 yrs, M-9 yrs D -7 yrs, S-5 yrs BD-5/3/16, D filed 6/8/16