Nobody wants to be with a grump-@ss. Nobody wants to be with someone who is down all of the time. No one wants to BE down all of the time. And going out and getting a life for yourself has so many benefits! Most importantly, it's to teach you about your own value...that you are worthy of happiness.
Stop doing everything with an eye on her. It isnt about her feedback right now.
I know exactly what you're talking about. I've dealt with it before where I would run like the wind to get away from people who are always down in the dumps. My two coworkers are like that now and it's even more depressing being around them and at the end of the day I am exhausted.
When my W and I were together I remained grumpy because I think I wanted to "punish" her. As I said earlier, the joke is on me and she has so far given me the ultimate punishment.
I know for a fact if I was the one who left I would be happier and I think that's what hurts. She called my bluff and now I have to look in the mirror and see how stupid I was. It took a 2x4 to knock some sense into me and I hope and pray that it isn't too late.
M 55 W 52 MR 32 T 34+ D29 BD May 8, 2016 - She moved out ILYBNILWY May 15 (Through email) No EA/PA August 23 - DB used against me in every way Divorce July 18, 2017 - Life is getting better every day
