WAS or what 7

[roist]

I'm game. I'd prefer to quench my thirst with you by sharing a poolside beer, but I'll settle for answering your question.

Firstly I assure you that I am not looking back with rose tinted glasses and wishing to get that back. I am only looking forward.Obviously 20 years of shared history will form a part of the foundation but this is a new build to new specifications.

I think I have shown that it is possible to survive in a SSM. Sex is not the be all and end all of a M. But knowing it is not an option, that your partner is not interested and may never be is for me not viable. Regardless of the sex, all the lesser forms of physical contact are important too. Those plus signs of affection and caring. Even a demonstration of interest in me/my life would for me be a sign of improvement for US.

I don't think I set the bar too high to want these things. Maybe I could settle for less if I knew she wanted to be with me but was incapable of more. As it is I don't see that.

For the moment she is not capable of fulfilling these needs. I don't need her to immediately but for me affection, care, interest and physical contact are essential pieces to a fulfilling M.

I have set the bar high but not unreasonably high.

I hope that answers your question.