I'll have to look around for some info on what exactly it means the house is in her name only. And I know i've read lots of similar stories to this.. but from the beginning she has said she wants us to remain friends, I can live in the house and we'll take care of the girls together but just live separate lives... And then I'll say or do something that will just make her feel threatened and the claws will come out.
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Wow, what's the mother stuff she's responsible for?
Doing their hair. I can do ponytails. We share a lot of responsibilities equally for playing/reading with kids, getting ready for bed. Normally I drop kids off at school in the morning, and she picks them up. I do feel like it's 60/40 me/her in terms of being a parent.
I'm out of country on a business trip right now. We had an argument the night before I left (what part of "don't talk about the R" don't I understand? argh....) but the argument ended sort of ok. We were able to calm down somewhat, but attitudes were very cool by the time I left, and it set us back a couple steps I'm sure.
With the time difference there's not a lot of opportunity to talk anyway. I've kept my texts to minimum/kids related (sending 2 pics of the teddy bear my kids sent with me, it's a tradition). But even with kids stuff, trying to keep it limited. After being very cool to me before I left, W started texting me a good amount yesterday. Got one message "still on road to work / Leaving late is tough / Will get to work by 10..I hope". Normally I drop kids off in the morning so her dealing with it is tough on her.
Got another text related to a financial thing "I wish I was savvy enough to understand the tax implications on my own". I have always done the taxes and been responsible for finances. I made a mistake one year that resulted in a large tax bill which has always been this source of insecurity for her. In our first MC session she said she was going to handle our taxes from now on and just tell me what we each had to pay. And then this message. Just all over the place. I'm just trying to remain the lighthouse and neutral in my responses.
Me: 34, W: 39 T: 10y, M: 8y D 4, D 6 2nd M for both BD: 4/22 status: separate beds, GAL, hopeful
