I too just wanted to drop by to wish you well. I don't have any great insights but I share the feeling that many others have expressed.You have been a great help to many people here.TThank you for that. Nowi hope you find the support and advice you need.

Best wishes

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together