Just a thought but maybe you should say something like the following.
If you decide that you will return to the marital home we will have to discuss some rules prior to your return.
If the agreed upon rules are not met I will (.....add consequence here).
Vets would know how to word this better but I am trying. Look for Cadet's Work Thread. There is a post on it by Coach that explains boundaries.
H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6 S-9,8,8,6,4 S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15 EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16 PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16 XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16 Finally moving forward...
