he is perhaps trying to point out the flaw in your logic...if reread the highlighted post it is glaring.
the change IS for YOU. GAL is for you. GOALS are set for your path and improvement.
she has nothing to do with any of that. well, she shouldn't otherwise it is just another gimmick or ploy and not worth your effort.
RDS, this is not easy...to look at yourself and say i want to be better For ME, and to do it as a lifestyle change because let's be honest most of the guys get here do not believe we are worth it.
guess what, you are worth all the effort you can muster and more.