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[LiM]

Coffee,

I don't think I qualify as a vet but I wanted to give my opinion. I'm so sorry for what you are going through. What a slap in the face to know its been going on this long.

I think you are perfectly within your right to move on but honestly, it wouldn't be fair to anyone you try and see right now. You need to heal yourself first and that will take some time. If you wait and make sure you take care of yourself, you will be in a much better position to go into a new relationship. You owe that to yourself and any person you may see in the future. I don't think seeing anyone right now will do anything to help you detach. It may only mask the pain of what you are going through right now.