Cristy, I give it about a .08 percent change that the fog will lift. If it does I will call you. She has had 10 years of off and on EA's and has justified it based on my shortcomings in the M relationship. She has had this long to know how to detach if she got caught. She has completely detached, almost overnight from when the A's where discovered. Zuess warned me that something so profound would happen before I truely could start DBing. I have begun to attach.
What are the vets views on seeing/texting other women at this time to help me detach? I have been just as a confidence booster to help me realize that there is life after D and that I can find someone eventually.
I can totally stop it but I have been lonely for a long time and really enjoy some normal interaction to help distract and detach.
My counselor told be to tell her I want a D on Wednesday when I go to lunch. And also told me based on what I have disclosed to him that there is very little likelihood that her fog will lift. He did say that maybe some day after all of the papers are signed and things calm down that I should try to talk to her about what really went wrong. Is that a good idea, I know it is like trying to look into a crystal ball.
M 21 years XW 43yo, me 41 yo S13 BD March 2016 - she asked me to patient... End of June - I started the D process. D final 2/23/17 "He who forgets will be destined to remember" Eddie Vedder
