Thanks everyone for the posts. I know that Sandi2 and others said that in house is not ideal and does not show lots of success in reconciliation. I think the idea is that the changes are slow and gradual - therefore, not visible.
Also, the space was good for my "letting go/detachment" and she goes back to cake eating. living in her house, being with the kids - but no marriage.
Sandi2, Cadet? Any thoughts. Help
M:50 W:53 MR:20 D:21 S:17 S:11 BD-Sept 2015 Suspected PA Sept 2015-Confronted W & OM Dec 2015 Actually EA In house Sep:Jan/16-May 2016 W moved out:May 22 2016 OM-Intro Oct/17-On scene July/Aug 2017