It doesn’t help that absolutely none of my friends and family see any hope for me to reconcile with my wife. When they talk to me about my marriage, the overall feeling is that we are headed for D. My friends and family hate her at this point for what she’s doing to me and to our kids - they don’t particularly want us to stay together. That’s understandable, I know they mean well, they just want me to be happy and for this to be over for me.
This is why MWD recommends not detailing too much of your situation out to friends and family. All it does is make the road home tougher. How can you keep the path clear?
Originally Posted By: qt4x11
The outcome of the situation is up to her. That’s not a good feeling, to have your life be decided by someone else (your kids lives too).
NO! That is not true. Why are you giving her all of the power to make that decision? Why dont you get any say as to when it's over? You are in control of your life. Your life was NEVER decided by her.
Originally Posted By: qt4x11
She called a few times over the weekend to talk to the kids, I got to talk to her a few minutes too.
Hmmmm....this sounds like you might be being too available. You "got" to talk to her for a few minutes, and thats considered a positive? I understand that the children need their mother in their life, but in my opinion, a "few times" in a weekend is kind of a lot. How will things be if you are divorced?
Originally Posted By: qt4x11
She has built up so many walls in such a short amount of time (only a month and a half), it seems a very tall order for me to bring them down.
Id frame this differently in your head. Only she can bring down her walls. Your job is just to not add to them for her.
Youre doing OK, QT. Just keep going a day at a time.
