I agree that we can't move forward with the marriage while the other man is involved. My wife has agreed to marriage counseling, but I don't know if it will do any good while the OM is in the picutre. Any advice on that? I'm not sure if that needs to end first or if there is anything that would come out of MC that would help.
The MC will not benefit the MR until she ends her A. Otherwise, it's like taking diet pills while you eat a banana split.
Quote:
I've been going to church weekly, working out 3-5 times per week (and am down over 20 pounds so far), going out with friends after work (although not as much yet as I probably should be), I shaved off a goatee that I had worn for the last 10 years and am making sure I am clean shaven every day. I've also started wearing cologne every day, which is something I have never really done. Because of the weight loss, I've started buying new clothes, and I've applied for a new job at work, so I most definitely am not just sitting back expecting this to end.
Fantastic!
Have you read the link on detaching? I can see where physical detaching could help with the mental. It about the emotional attachment, as well. IMHO, it's how you tie everything to your W, or not. Check it out and see if you agree.
Good to hear from you. Keep up the GAL.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
