Pink, thanks so much for your thoughtful post. You are very kind to say those things and you are right that I may well be better off without XH going forwards. Someone posted somewhere else on the forum - I loved the person I married but not who they have become. I can honestly say that if I was meeting XH from scratch now with his current history, I wouldn't be attracted to him.

Good couple of days for me. The survey on the house I'm buying went well. The surveyor is happy with the value and there are some minor maintenance jobs. He mentioned the great location and that it should never be hard to sell a nice property in this location. Can't recall if I said, but I went to school with the surveyor (haven't seen him for 30 years.) He asked some stuff about my life and where I've been etc. Then told me that a bunch of guys from school keep in touch and go out regularly. He mentioned some names (and some hilarious nicknames too) some of whom I remember. If I get an invite I may go along and catch up with one or two old faces.

Spent the day Mum-sitting and had a nice gentle time. We had the music on and she was humming along, the sun was shining and all felt well with the world.

Fathers Day tomorrow, so will be calling over to see them again with some lunch. Hope everyone is having a lovely weekend. Xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus