However, given your situation, I think you need to focus on goals for you. Your goal seems to be focused on him.
That chapter of the book has a lot of examples of couples who are in counseling and who are setting goals together. I found it confusing when I was setting goals when my H was not interested in working on the relationship.
Your H wants to communicate only via email. You want to communicate only in person. Until one of you bends, no communication will happen. You can only control you.
What are your goals for you--not for H or your M?
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
