Hi Rose888, Thanks for that input. I think it is useful for some types of communication, but since a lot of communication is body language, tone of voice etc. there is too much room for miscommunication with something as important as this. Plus, I actually think it's a bit cowardly on his part to not be brave enough to tell me what is going on in person. I realize that he doesn't perhaps feel 'safe' with me right now and afraid of his emotions, but there is a way to get to a place where talking in person is possible. how is it going with you?