In my IC's words I've been a "doormat" in our R for a long time and have always been afraid to challenge my W and let my opinions be heard. She is of the opinion that my W is fully expecting me to remain silent and let her do as she pleases safe in the knowledge that she has a 'Plan B' waiting in the wings as I have a history of being passive.
In my IC's opinion me initiating conversation regarding D sends a clear signal to my W that I'm willing to speak up for myself and that I'm not willing to be anyone's 'Plan B' which is very much like the man I used to be.
For the record I will also agree that I'm unsure if it is the right or wrong thing to do but it gave me food for thought.
