I find what your IC said to be interesting, I'm no professional, but I don't understand how bringing up D puts you in control. What if you bring it up and she says Yes, that sounds like a wonderful idea, let's do it... Then who's in control? I'm just not sure.
Did your IC talk at all about taking back control of your happiness, your emotions, your life? I'm not saying your IC is right or wrong, I just don't know how it would put you in control. Boundaries would give you control of what you would and wouldn't accept, and if D was a consequence, then that would be some sort of control, but I think just discussing D wouldn't give any control.
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized
