We can still be friends

[liono]

Just wanted to share/journal about a couple things on my mind.

1- sleeping sitch
We have the 2 daughters and they always want to sleep in our room. We maybe let them twice a month, and we'll just share the bed or I'll just go in another room. It's fun. Fine. A couple weeks after BD though, W just started saying "Yes of course you can sleep here" every night. I started sleeping in one of my daughter's beds by default, and it's been that way consistently for maybe 3 weeks now. Now reading a bunch of threads here, I'm seeing "don't leave the MBR", so I'm kind of regretting it, but kind of feel like to try to do anything about it now would just be poking the bear.

Keep thinking of this picnic-squirrel image. It's like I mistakenly left part of my lunch too close to the tree. But I can't get up and go get it now. Not when the squirrel is just sort of sticking her head out to see what's going on. Just gotta keep moving forward and count the tiny improvements in other areas

2- I'm going on a business trip leaving tomorrow, for a week. I'll be in different time zone, different country. Perfect excuse to GAL while I'm there and keep communication to a minimum. Different time zone means there's really not much of a chance or expectation to communicate anyway. So my plan is try to focus on the kids for a daily Facetime, but other than that, basically keep my emails + texts to myself. Respond to requests, but mainly have lots of fun and do my job.

While I'm away, the W will have to do the cooking, getting kids ready, all the father stuff I'm normally responsible for. She's actually kind of excited about it, and I'm interested to see how it goes for her. Obviously tons of thoughts bouncing around in my head: from "she's going to see how hard it is and appreciate me much more" to "she's going to realize she is totally capable as a single mother and decide she doesn't need me at all". Ha! But I'm not sharing ANY of those fears with her, and just trying to keep DBing.

I'll miss everyone, and my kids especially, but since I have to be completely away anyway, best to just maximize the focus on myself and take advantage.

Any other brainstorms/suggestions on how to DB during the trip?