Thanks for the replies & thoughts, I really appreciate them!
Hawho, yes, it is very concerning that she just assumes she will get her way come fall. The guardian attorney will be deciding on the best course of action around the beginning of August before school starts. Idk if w gets it, she doesn't act that like it, she just thinks it's her way, period.
Hi Irish, I've been following your thread since I've been here but haven't posted. I've seen a lot of the similarities and try to keep up. Funny you mentioned mental illness, there's a lot in my w's family beyond what I've mentioned. You also made me remember a comment w made to me once, probably 2 years ago or so. She told me she was afraid of going crazy, I didn't see anything wrong with her at the time and reassured her she was fine and it was just her having to deal with her troubled childhood. Maybe it was the beginning of all this, I think her friends death just put her over the edge and she cracked. Her hormone troubles certainly affected her too. You're right, she's definitely not the woman I've known for 14 years.
Bttrfly, I know your right, my best friend and the w I've known is gone, maybe forever, and I'm not doing a good job of detaching. In fact I know I've stumbled backwards quite a bit in that regard. Idk why I'm having such a hard time with this lately. She has little to no respect for me as shown through her actions and I'm still having trouble letting go.
She asked to take the kids for ice cream Wednesday and when I told her what time would be good she got irritated because she didn't want to ruin their dinner but the time I suggested was too late. I guess I'm supposed to have them eat at 5:30, lol. When she pulled up she had a parking ticket stuck on the window (it's in my name so I'll probably get a notice soon) wires hanging below and it smelling like antifreeze. I told her a couple weeks ago but she didn't want me to look at it and she's just been adding antifreeze. I told her not to travel with the kids with it like that so she did actually take it in. Last night she asked about seeing the kids skate and asked if it would work to go Saturday afternoon instead when she got it back. They've been planning on tonight all week so I told her I wasn't sure if we'd go twice and I didn't think it'd be the afternoon since we had other plans (not going to plan my time around her). Then she asked to pick them up at 6 Sunday. I replied I'd like to have them longer so we could have dinner. Nothing back, then this morning I get an email that she was leaving town after she got them (no mention of this in text) and she contacted her attorney who advised it was in the best interest of the children not to be traveling that late and she would take it up with the guardian attorney if she needed to. Just crazy, she didn't get her way so went right to her attorney. So according to them traveling almost till midnight (I was wrong before the town is 5 not 7 hours away) in the middle of nowhere is! I just forwarded it to the guardian attorney as a FYI and let her know I told her to pick them up earlier so they weren't traveling so late. I also asked her about her babysitter/childcare in the string of emails and she told me she arranged her schedule so she didn't need any! So she's planning on dragging them around to work, only working every other 2 weeks, or lying.
Then tonight she texted while we were skating and asked about tomorrow, being nice. I kept it short and just said I'd let her know. It's hard to bite my tongue through a lot of this but I know better than to open my mouth and I think she's showing how irrational she is right now for the guardian attorney to see.
I'm also going to tell the kids about her moving into an apartment in another town tomorrow so it's not a complete shock to them. I can't believe she would just pick them up and leave.
