We can still be friends

[liono]

Just got done with MC session. Feeling kind of on top of the world, actually. Counting my successes...

• Therapist complimented me on my ability to "sit and listen" to the hard stuff W was telling me, super impressed by my ability to listen and be "strong" and empathetic. Direct result of DB'ing. Just thinking validation and listening the whole time.
• Main subject was some really "difficult topics" W had not yet shared with me because she was worried about my emotional stability. Basically: she has realized she needs an alpha, not a beta, and since I'm a beta, we are fundamentally incompatible. She was pretty shocked at how I just took it all in and listened and (I guess?) didn't break down into a blubbering mess?
• For my part, re: alpha vs beta, in my head I was like "no SH**". Exactly what I've been working on for the last 2 months. Gives me hope
• W is still hurt, still isn't attracted to me. Fine, understandable. Says she can't imagine even if I turned myself completely around that she would feel the same thing she felt when we courted. But looking for tiny steps: her language throughout the session went from "can't imagine feeling the same" to "have a hard time seeing I would feel the same". It's like going from 100% negative language to 95% negative. Small, but significant to me. Again, for me just focused on validating, "I totally hear you and understand, you can't see attraction for me right now, and therefore it's also impossible for you to see it in the future either"

If you asked her, she probably would still say there's "no way" love could ever return, but of course, I know my path is the same no matter what. GAL, recover from Nice Guy syndrome.