I will add that I never did all those things and others to try and get something in return. I did them because I know how much they would mean to my W, the woman I loved. I know they were the ways that she felt loved. I do think that this process has shown me how she never understood me. She loved me the way she wanted to be loved but I see now how she didn't look to love me the ways I needed. Reading 5LL has helped me see this more and more. However, it did probably create resentment in me which affected other areas of our life.
