Well actually, I was thinking on her end. The answer I had in mind is.....She looses more respect for you. In order for a woman to feel in love with her H, she first has to respect him. We don't particularly like it, but that's how we're made.
Over time in a MR, things can happen to break down that level of respect......if it is never addressed. She may have expressed it in a way that you did not understand the source behind it. Being M to a nice-guy type, the chances of continuation of disrespect is pretty large..........if you've not challenged her behavior.
Don't confuse being a good man with the nice-guy syndrome. Women usually want a good man for a H, but we also want a man who will stand up to us and show that he is stronger than we are. That is very important to us, b/c we don't want a man who is weaker than us. We want someone we admire and respect.
There have been some nice-guy types who have left the board, simply b/c they would not even try to take a stronger stand. I hope you won't be one of them. I suspect you have much more strength and self respect than your WW is seeing. Perhaps the way you define strength and how she sees it displayed are not the same.
I think you are wise in knowing what you can control, and what you have no control over. I encourage you to enforce boundaries, b/c you do not have to imitate a doormat by feeling that you have no control under your own roof. It is your decision how you will live and how you will be treated by others.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
