For some conversations, I find email better than in person, because sometimes I word things poorly the first (12) times, and email lets me edit as many times as I need to.
We've also used email when delivering news to relatives when we suspected that their initial reaction would damage the relationship. Getting the news via email let them cry and rage and get over their shock and then respond with a response that was more supportive of the relationship.
Which isn't me telling you that you have to communicate via email or that you should communicate with H at all right now. I'm not qualified to give advice!
But it might help to know that not everyone sees email as cold, distant, inhuman, and cowardly. For some of us, it helps us rise above our communication flaws and bring our best self to the conversation.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
