I have a friend who is on the verge of splitting up with her husband. She has been telling him for MONTHS now, that she is going to do it. She has been very clear about why she wants to go and what he needs to do to get her to stay. she told him she has gone to see a lawyer.
Heres what I think you are missing. Many of us were told things, but didnt listen or didnt believe the severity. My guess is that your W said things to you over the years that you may have only partially heard. Even if not, the trouble is that they are words. You could have been told that, fixed some of the problems for a time, and then reverted back to old ways over time.
Unfortunately, it takes this serious ACTION to stir us LBS's into action, but by the time the WAS is ready to take that action, it becomes to late to do the things you should have done in the first place.
The only way to have a potential to revive the marriage is to become the best version of yourself. And sometimes, that isnt enough.
The point is, you need actions, not words. Thats why I have a hard time believing that your letter will have any impact.
