So one of the hinges I found out my W has told some of her friends and family is that she considers me controlling, manipulative and abusive. The hardest one to take is abusive because it's one of those stigmas that is almost impossible to get rid of. It's also hard because W has been the one to turn to physical violence towards me on a couple of occasions and threatened hurting herself towards me. She also fails to recognize that if she throws something, it is directed at me. I admit that in arguments I have gotten frustrated and taken some of that out on objects but never directed anything at her.
There are times also that I don't think my W remembers what she has said or done in the past months since BD. There was one night she spat some things at me and when she came to talk to to me a couple of night later, I said I wasn't interested in listening due to the way she spoke to me previously, she asked me what she said, said she couldn't remember...
Anyways, just a couple of mindless thoughts passing through..
