Being there to help v going dark:balance

[Surfer]

My WAW has now gone on holiday with her 'girlfreinds' (I suppose all WAW or WAH's have them - those friends who cover up inappropriate behaviors with lies or are the ones that will stir up negativity in your WAW (or H). I really agonized over this as the option to take the kids and be the best Dad was there even though it felt like I was having the kids 'dumped' as my WAW needs a break as she is stressed. I talked carefully with her and decided that until a Schedule for custody is in place there will be changes. We are nearly there on the Schedule. However, something rather strange happened. I offered to drive my wife to the Airport and with some hesitation she accepted. We talked and laughed on the way. She was down and hurting too and was a little teary at times - over the anniversary of the death of a close family member. Anyway, I validated and kept happy (i.e. not anxious). The negative self talk inside me was put aside and I focused on her and enjoying her company. I cant remember how many times she thanked me - but it was a lot. I offered to pick her up on Sunday and she agreed but only if you are not busy....there could be a bit of cake eating, but it felt like the right thing to do and from the interaction it felt very much like piecing. I feel like I did the right thing. Hopefully I did. I want to send her a message to let her know that I care but I think I will hold back. I did say 'be careful' as she went - she will perhaps get it from that? I think I still need to do the GAL and leave her to focus on her on stresses when she returns - they wont go anywhere (the burden of job, kids, etc all alone) but be there when she calls, texts or visits and listen, validate and avoid conflicts. Does this all sound about right?