WAW,still angry, am I indifferent or detached now?

[PsySara]

You're a rock star. I need to take a page from your book when it comes to detaching. You're a role model for fellow DB'ers.

[Phoebe]

Sad is right, SH. I'm thinking that my H is pretty sad these days, too.

You sound really strong, though, to be able to look at her in this way now. How far you've come!

Sleep, schmeep. It's overrated, huh? Just kidding, Mister Sparrow. I wish you better sleep tonight, and a wonderful day tomorrow.

Still waiting for the latest challenge.

[JksD]

You sound great, SH. I am also waiting for your new challenge.

[Irish M]

SH amazing to see how strong you are. Your daughters see this and it will carry them through this.

Your GAL activities are great. Make sure you try new activities with your kids. New memories and happy times.

I like the SH, so many positive names can be made from it. I still prefer the super hero name but all those who stand by their kids and stay strong and support them with love are all Hero's so that name is for a lot of LBS 's here.

Take care my friend and stay on the path.

[Vanilla]

SH amazing to see how strong you are. Your daughters see this and it will carry them through this.

Your GAL activities are great. Make sure you try new activities with your kids. New memories and happy times.

I like the SH, so many positive names can be made from it. I still prefer the super hero name but all those who stand by their kids and stay strong and support them with love are all Hero's so that name is for a lot of LBS 's here.

Take care my friend and stay on the path.

Agree Irish M. I remember you coming here and I am honoured to say the same of you.

V

[Phoebe]

Good afternoon, Mr. SH. I'm just checking in on you, but you must be having a busy weekend, which is a very good thing.

My GAL stuff is perhaps getting a bit out of hand, so I'm taking the weekend off! Sleep deprivation is catching up with me today, and I am tired just sitting here in a parking lot typing this (I just bought some boxes to expand my baby chicks' living quarters). I've begun my legal wrangling, which is no fun whatsoever, though I do like my lawyers.

I hope you've been sleeping a bit better again.

(((((SH)))))

[Phoebe]

Hello again, SH. Another day, another drive by. Thank you for checking in on me earlier. It's been a day.

(((SparrowHawk)))

[Phoebe]

Just me again, wondering what's happening in your world.

[PsySara]

Just checking in on ya, SH.

[SH_]

Thanks for checking in on me Sara. And that you for the vote of confidence as it relates to my detachment. This has been my saving grace as it relates to my mental health and focus.
I am having some concerns about the detachment though. I will journal my thoughts here momentarily for that.
I have been following your sitch and all I can say is keep at it girl. You are one he// of a woman from what I read and the fool that can not see that is missing out on more than he'll ever know if he does not pull his head out of his arse.
(((Sara)))

Thank you jksd and Irish for checking in on me as well.
jksd, I am still working on that challenge. I have been real busy, and lost track of many things that I need to re establish, so my goal is to have one this weekend. I have challenge the community to help me fill up the gratitude thread to 100, but not a lot of gratitude so far.
Irish, I agree there are a lot of Super Heroes here. Many children are getting great care in spite of the challenges. This is comforting to know, because I don't know that I have seen that much in my life knowing divorced parents and one just disappearing.

Phoebe, thank you for staying close. I have not updated my story much of late as my head is in a cloud. A good cloud, but one that has me focusing away from things around the pending divorce, the WAW, and the pain I am observing in both of my daughters.

I want to be a beacon of happiness and positive energy and all my focus is on that. I fear I may have brushed over some things as I am still not certain why I feel detached so quickly.
My IC says it is because I have accepted the situation and taken action to not own a victim role. He says my focus on my daughters is also a factor.

My W is not doing well. She continues to blame me for every bit of pain, discomfort and unpleasantness in her life. She struggles to not verbally take it out on her daughters. God only knows how much she complains to her brother. Her brother is whom she spends almost all of her spare time with.
Yet none of this affects me at this time. I see her as a stranger inhabiting the body that was once my W.
But I feel nothing when I see her.
Nothing.
Can this be the right thing so quickly?
I ponder this daily now.


And I have become the support system for my friend (friend since childhood) who is going through his own challenges with a W, that went wayward 2 years ago with a PA. It is his second wife. I am trying to share the Db way with him, as it does not look promising at this point.

So, I am still DBing, in the aspect of trying to heal, grow and be a better man that can be a part of a healthy relationship. With whom and when? Not sure. But it won't be any time soon.