I am going to break every DB rule in the books

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Gabs:

Your honesty is commendable. I empathize with everything you say and feel. I know that when I'm in this as long as you have been - I'm sure I will feel the same way you do.

I too struggle with the full love/emotional component of what is generally accepted here. There are many key elements that I know make perfect sense - once you are able to remove yourself a little. Doing the same thing over again and hoping for different results, etc.

I can certainly see your perspective on the "attacks". I too have found the criticism a little harsh from time to time.

There are many threads I've read where people are ignoring the prevailing wisdom in hopes that a different result will happen.

I have really benefited myself from some of the advice I've received. I do agree with changing things up. Even the smallest thing. You never know where a small pebble will start a landslide.

So if you go to starbucks at work - pack a thermos. If you do your shopping at Walmart - go to Target. The smallest change can really be a confidence booster.

I love the practical and I've really benefited from taking on new tasks, hobbies, etc. And yes my W has noticed changes and it makes her crazy.

So try something new - anything. If you choose to stick with the DB/DR strategy remember that it seems to make sense. Will it work - maybe maybe not.

You have made it this far, you can go the distance.