I was the same way after a month. My attitude drastically changed, I was in IC 2x a week, my outlook also changed. I started the gym membership about that time and that consumed my free hours. I was no longer a miserable, angry person to be with. I changed my hair style. I got a fake tan. I shaved every day. Not only did my W notice, but everyone around me did. Including other women I work with :-)
Keep moving, don't stop with the improvements, learn a new hobby. Try guitar or piano. Become interested in something you've always wanted to do. I dragged out my old telescope and started stargazing again. If she wants to come back, then that's great for you. If she doesn't, then that leaves room for someone else to appreciate the NEW you, the NEW AND IMPROVED RSG!
I had a little setback this afternoon, realizing I just don't like who I had become. I didn't feel good this afternoon, and I missed my best friend being there to hear me out and pump me back up. Sigh. Onward and upward. I know the areas that are important, and adding a little to my style and appearance would be welcome. I know it's just month one, but I have a plan and clear goals. I'm looking to the future, but focused on today.
Me: 35 W: 32 S: 4 T: 6 M: 4 Physical Separation official: 5/21 Currently: DR/DBing, Focusing on me and son
Cheating on a good person is like throwing away a diamond and picking up a rock.