Separating to pieces (hopefully)

[liono]

So sorry to hear about this. I don't have much experience with D or false accusations or anything like that. But one thing did occur to me reading this.

Recommend being careful about how to speak to your friends and family. For one thing, I'm sure they can all see how insane your W behavior is. Second, it might be really tempting to wallow in the pity you get.

One of my favorite things from my first M after W left me was chatting with a mutual friend who asks me: "How's your better half?" (he didn't know yet). I say something like "well we're splitting up blah blah"
Friend: "(pause)... well, I always thought you were the better half anyway."

Hehe, still makes me laugh. But the insidious part is it was really easy for me to play the victim. Everyone saw my W just walk on out, and here was poor me, soaking all the pity in. Did I focus on my contributions to it? What I could do to be better as a man? Hell no! Probably has a lot to do with why I'm here today trying to DB M #2!!!

Anyway, advice for you be extremely careful. You go playing the victim with friends and family is just going to fuel the crazy. Cool calm collected courteous, and let the L do their thing. And like sandi says, stay the heck away.