Funny you mention that warming-up though. I have noticed a few times when I felt she was being really critical or unfair and I just let her have it (we're talking 3-4 times in the entire M, the rest of the time I just internalized and built up the emotional wall). Result: a sincere apology and hugs and feeling closer afterward.
You say you keep things bottled up and have resentment. In the meantime, your W sees you being weak b/c you won't stand up to her. Whenever a man lets his W show disrespect for him without calling her out on it......what do you think happens?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
